Anxiety & Depression


Everyone knows what it’s like to feel anxious. All of us have experienced it and naturally we worry that we will look foolish or that something bad is going to happen to us or someone we love.

But sometimes feelings of anxiety can become overwhelming. Some people’s feelings of anxiety get out of proportion to any likely danger. They can’t get thoughts about disaster out of their minds. When this happens, anxiety, instead of sharpening us up and making us do well, becomes debilitating and disabling.

People suffering from this sort of anxiety feel ill. They lack energy, they feel tense and on edge. They’re restless and unable to concentrate. Their sleep is affected and they wake unrefreshed. They may feel that they can’t breathe properly. They become obsessed with thoughts of impending danger and disaster. Symptoms of anxiety include:

  • Insomnia
  • Difficulty with concentration
  • Nausea
  • Trouble breathing
  • Feeling shaky
  • A lump in the throat
  • Restlessness and inability to relax
  • Panic attacks.

Look further down this page for suggestions to help reduce anxiety.


Although everyone knows what it's like to feel anxious, many people don’t have much idea of what it is like to be depressed. It’s true, of course, that we all have good days and bad days, highs and lows, ups and downs. But depression isn’t just feeling unhappy or being in a bad mood.
People who are seriously clinically depressed certainly do feel despondent, but there’s more to it than that. Inside themselves, they feel empty and worthless. Worst of all, they feel that things will never get better.

Sometimes depression strikes in the aftermath of a traumatic event such as a bereavement, a divorce or a serious illness. But often it comes out of the blue for no identifiable reason. Symptoms of depression include:

  • Feeling that one is a worthless person
  • Feelings of guilt over what happened in the past
  • A sense of hopelessness – that there is no light at the end of the tunnel
  • Difficulty with concentration
  • Withdrawing from contact with family and friends
  • Difficulty in falling asleep
  • Waking early in the morning and being unable to get back to sleep
  • Loss of appetite
  • A feeling that life isn’t worth living
  • Lack of energy

People suffering from depression need medical help and, if you recognize that you or someone close to you is depressed, you should pluck up the courage to consult your doctor. Treatment may take a while to work but in the long term it is almost always effective. No one stays depressed for ever – even if that’s how they feel at the time.

Some people are unfortunate enough to suffer from recurrent depression. If you are one of them you may find our suggestions below helpful in reducing the risk of another episode. We can’t guarantee that our RFLI self help techniques will ward off depression entirely. Even so, by learning to deal more effectively with the stress in your life you give yourself the best chance of coping with feelings of unhappiness and despondency.

How can Relaxation for Living & More help you?

We can’t stop stressful events occurring in our lives, but we can minimise their harmful effects by learning some of the RFLI techniques.

Our Relaxation and Stress Management short courses with simple, practical self-help techniques can help.

Contact us via our Contacts page to see if there is an RFLI  licensed teacher near you to attend one of their courses.

Alternatively you could try our DVD or CD products which include tension easing exercises and relaxation techniques to help.

In the meantime there are simple things you can do to lower your level of anxiety and reduce these symptoms.

Try some simple things yourself :

  • If you are concerned about a particular situation, don’t be afraid to ask for help
  • If you find yourself becoming over anxious - try a quick calm down technique.
  • Check for tension in your body throughout the day, try to avoid pressure building up.
  • Use relaxation techniques to reduce muscle tension. Try to build them into your daily routine.
  • Check out your mental attitudes do not build up pressure. How realistic are your worries? What help is available?
  • Learn to recognise the Symptoms of stress so you can take action.

Whatever you do, keep looking for answers and don't give up. People are available to help you and you aren't alone.